How to Know True Love ?

How do you know when you have found true love? I have heard this question countless times and have to be honest with you. No one really knows how true love works. There are different types of love. Puppy, true, and false are the three most common forms around. The best way to really identify true love is to explain the differences between these three. Puppy love is the type most teenagers experience. It is pure infatuation. The parties involved in a puppy love will feel the need to constantly stay at each other's side.

Usually, puppy love is found in couples without any previous relationships. These couples feel the need to boast about their feelings, often displaying heavy public emotion. They constantly feel the need to physically touch one another and have an obscene knack of showering one another with pet names and compliments. Without their companion, by their side, they may exhibit a lack of self-confidence, bouts of depression, and serious jealousy issues. It is this immature nature that separates puppy love from true love. This type of relationship has a legitimate threat for abusive situations.

False love is exactly that. This is a relationship based on lies. These relationships tend to base primarily on their passions and lusts. Couples in false relationships have one party, who truly cares about the other party, who has no moral or ethical obligations to their mate. Psychological and physical abuse is fairly commonplace. Someone always gets hurt when these relationships end.

True love is unlike any other form of love. Couples truly in love appreciate every moment they are together, even when they are apart. They are comfortable knowing every detail of each other's lives. Their relationships are so strong, a psychic bond is formed. Similar to the bond between mother and child. For example, it is not uncommon for a couple to be in two different stores and purchase the same item, or be in different sections of the same store and come back with the same item in their hands.

True love is when a couple accepts one another, regardless of how they change. They feel so comfortable talking to one another, that they can hold a serious conversation during the most private moments. They are so comfortable with their relationship, they can change in front of one another without a second thought. True love is knowing this is the person you are going to be with until the day you die. You can easily picture taking care of your mate, when they are at their worst or best. They naturally recognize when something is bothering their mate. Children blessed enough to have parents truly in love, enjoy their parents playful proddings. They get a chance to see what it takes to make relationships work. Without a good working understanding, children are at a distinct disadvantage in their future relationships. It is imperative for children to see parents sharing their affection with the entire family, which will only further enhance their chances of having successful relationships. It is important to note, every relationship requires a lot of work. Couples experiencing true love have less work to do, however there are still areas they have to work at. Puppy love can grow, but requires a lot of work and patience. False love will never work, because one person does not feel the same as the other. People truly in love will find a way to make things work, even when times are at their hardest. Without that determination, there is no chance of success.

True Love ,Chastity

Sometimes we think that it is difficult if not definitel impossible to be chaste. And the reason for such a mistaken opinion is that the word chastity is understood in too narrow a sense. People think that chastity is merely the control of animal passions. Such an idea is false and in any case incomplete.(Gandhi).

Nowadays there is great confusion about chastity and sexuality in general, giving rise to serious consequences in people's relationships. I would like to begin by clarifying, as far as possible, the basic terms namely: sexuality and genitalia.

Sexuality is what makes man and woman different in their physicalness,but also in the different ways of thinking, acting, reacting, loving, crying, rejoicing etc. Sexuality is present in all expressions of human life, it forms its backbone. Genitalia, instead, is the use of sexuality in intercourse, in the entire gift of self (body, psyche and spirit) to and with another person.

Chastity is a term between these two realities.

Chastity is not a limitation nor an amputation of love; indeed love reduced to mere genitality is impoverished, demeaned, and amputated.

Chastity allows genitality have her own place, it expands the heart, and lets tenderness express itself in a completely disinterested love which fills with happiness the one who gives it as well as the person who receives it.

This doesn't mean contempt of the body, but knowledge of it, a way of channelling our own energies and our personal interior treasure, leading them away from selfish narcissism.

Chastity is the correct use of genitalia for the end for which it was given to us. Nobody would dream of cutting a plate or opening a tin of tuna with a small pair of scissors, and if he did, he would be obliged to throw the scissors away. It is true that the term chastity originates from: to keep check on, to control; but in positive language it means that it can teach us the discipline of the heart, with its rules, of the eyes, of language, of the imagination. All this leads to freedom ease, harmony and peace.

Nowadays people easily declare that the human being must accept and satisfy all his physical and psychological demands, it is bluntly affirmed that control over self and personal instincts could lead to excessive strain. This kind of vision considers the human person to be lacking in reason and intelligence, and we know it is not so.

Chastity is order, balance, sovereignty, harmony. It is the foundation for a clear relationship between woman and man, not only in marriage, but in any kind of relationship (friendship, work, family).

There is a total chastity which is real love, because it allows us to prepare ourselves to make a total gift, great, exclusive and ONLY to him/her to whom one is married. It is a gift which once given cannot be taken back in order to give it again to another. This is because the gift is not outside yourself, but it is you yourself and therefore there is no possibility of or right to taking it back again.

There is a relative chastity, that spouses live in married life which excludes the use of genitality as a mere instrument of pleasure. Indeed, because chastity is not something to be practiced only before marriage, as most people think, but also and above all, in married life.

Chastity isn't only a way of expressing what is good and what is bad, what is right and what is wrong. If it were so, it would be a dam easily pulled down. Chastity is a training to overcome any kind of selfish or possessive mentality towards our body or the body of anyone else. Chastity doesn't repress desires, it doesn't ridicule them, nor does it deny them. Rather it orientates them and helps to open us, in a more profound way, to the beauty of our own body and of real love.

Chastity is the secret of joy for everyone and a path for growth lasting a lifetime..

True Love

The Turris Eburnea promotes meetings between young women to discover the signs of True Love which:

it is a feeling, that grows with esteem, is strenghtened by respect and shows itself through sacrifice

Love is never a game!!!

Love grows early in a young girl's heart, to prepare herself to love!!!

To fall in love is easy, but to love truly is difficult

To love is not to look into each other’s eyes, but to look together in the same direction

To love means desiring the other's good.

Just like doctors and engineers cannot be improvised, neither can True Love be improvised!!

LOVE is a gift which must be greatly prepared!!

Don’t give your heart away in "segments"!!

What is beautiful in Love is its exclusiveness!!

Radha and Krishna is the embodiment of love, passion and devotion.

The whole universe material and spiritual is the creation of Shri Radha - Krishna. The relationship of Radha and Krishna is the embodiment of love, passion and devotion. Radha's passion for Krishna symbolizes the soul's intense longing and willingness for the ultimate unification with God. Shri Krishna is the soul of Radha and Radha is definitely the soul of Shri Krishna. She is the undivided form of Shri Krishna. She will remain a mystery unless one can know her inexpressible divine elements. She is worshipper as well as his deity to be worshipped.

When two become one !

You are no longer a couple, you are the one, you share one life and don’t divide it no longer in two. You don’t use the word “I” anymore, there’s only “We”. You belong to him and have no doubts that he belongs to you. So two become one..

When everything suddenly goes right, and all the problems seem so miserable that you don’t even have think now, since now you don’t have to worry about a thing at all.
When you are ready to give up all your life for him and you’re quite sure that he’ll never ask for that because he’s ready to do the same.
When you don’t have to talk to understand each other, and when one starts a phrase the other finishes it.

When you can talk about everything in the world and tell each other all the secrets you’ve ever had.When it’s never better to sleep apart, but when you sleep in one bed it’s so difficult to fall asleep at all.When you’re together you don’t let go each others hands not for a second.

When you start acting and thinking very similar, and suddenly find out that you both copy each other even in intonations.
When you look at the world around not only with yours but with his eyes at the same time, when you note around everything that could be interesting or useful for him.
When you tell one another the smallest impressions and can always count on total understanding.When you see your future only with him and see no future without him.When suddenly and fully understand the meaning of the word “family”.

When you’d rather stay alone than go anywhere without him but nobody doesn’t expect you to come alone anywhere at all.

When every moment is the right moment to call him, and when you feel when he’s is going to call you.

When you look at him the color of your eyes changes and in your turn you are sure that he won’t every look at anybody with those eyes he’s looking at you.

When you are apart the letters from each other come just on time, when you most expect them to come.

When you both have one past, share the same memories and built together the plans for future, when you are rewriting all the plans you had before he came so they could suit him too.

When you learn all his weak points to avoid pressing on them.When you are beside him you never and nowhere feel out of place.

When you want to go around the world together and at the same time settle down somewhere, build a house, grow a garden and bring up kids together. And you will be making that house a home, keeping it warm, clean, nice so that he would always feel comfortable there.

When you want to take care of him all the times and always feel that care from his side.When you want to support and help him and do everything, even impossible only to keep him happy.When you both start doing things you’ve never done before and when you quit doing some things that you’ve been used to.

When you can let yourself be weak.When you stop looking at the other man at all.When you both become better day after day because you want to be the best for each other.When everything you’re doing is right seems to him and when everything he’s doing seems right to you.

When you want every single day to last forever.When you are never alone.

How can one make this fairytale last forever? Is it possible at all? How not to loose such a great love, not to let it efface itself among the worries of everyday life? These are the questions on which one should work for all his/her life.

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I can picture the day. Rice flying, a limo pulling up to take him and me to the airport, white clusters of flowers on the pews, tears in my mother's eyes, my bridesmaids in lavender chiffon....

All the details of my wedding day are worked out in my head. All of them, that is, except for the groom. Oops. That's an important part, huh?

Love. It's a commonly thrown around four-letter word. "I love macaroni and cheese." "I love Vanilla Ice." (Remember that?) Sometimes, even an "I love him" or "I love her."

What is real love?

And is there a difference between that and the heart-pounding adrenaline rush I feel when I see...? You know the person I'm talking about. That hot guy playing basketball at the gym... the cute girl who makes eye contact as she passes by... the friend of a friend of a friend... maybe a best friend. It's that person we keep track of when he or she is in the same room, whose comments and actions we analyze to no end.

There are a few things love isn't. Love isn't a feeling. Although real love is often accompanied by strong feelings, love does not equate with the sense of floating on clouds. Unlike the type of love that movies, television, and songs portray, people in love don't always feel ooey gooey around each other.

A relationship wouldn't last long on emotions. In fact, knowledge is the basis of a healthy relationship.

Knowing about the other person is key. I used to and sometimes still do "fall in love" with guys that I have never had a conversation with, whether it be a movie star in the latest romantic drama or the guy sitting behind me in a calculus class. I would know his name and his face, and that was the extent of my knowledge of him. If I were to start a relationship with him, who knows where that would lead us!

Knowing about the person's personality and character are so important. One good test is to list the qualities that attract us to that guy or girl. If the list is long, we know a lot about them and like those things. If the list is short, we either don't know a lot about them or we know a lot but aren't attracted to his or her personality.

Another important factor in a relationship is common life goals.

If the relationship is going to be long term, we need to be going in the same general direction as the other person. If his dream is to travel as an international businessman and she wants to be a realtor in a single location, conflict could arise. If she wants to live in the countryside with nature and he likes the hustle and bustle of a big city, there are potentially serious problems with the direction of the couple's lives.

Love isn't sex.

That statement alone goes against a lot of what the entertainment industry feeds us. Whenever two people hook up in pop culture, they have sex. Without showing some of the unpleasant realities of premarital and extramarital sex, it is drawn up to be a wonderful, fun recreational activity.

Sex is created for marriage--a long-lasting commitment between a couple. Outside of marriage, sex can have harsh consequences. Pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, guilt, insecurity, and shame can follow. A relationship based on lust can only last as long as the two are physically close and find each other sexually attractive.

Love is a choice. It's a commitment.

Although feelings will accompany love, and although sex will be a part of marriage, a lasting, healthy relationship cannot be based on these things.

The Bible says that God is love. God, as our designer and creator, made us with needs for love. Do you ever wonder why we constantly seek love from others but never feel completely satisfied? It's because God designed us for an unconditional love, and we, as people, are flawed.

People, whether friends, family, or your significant other, will invariably let you down at some point. God wants us to find our need for love and acceptance in him first. One person cannot meet all our needs, even if he's funny or she's thoughtful.

We were made for God's love, and God's love alone can fill that need. Only after experiencing and knowing the unconditional love that God has for us, the love that drove God to send his Son to die for us on earth, can we begin to love others with the same quality of unconditional love.

TRUE LOVE 101: What does it take to be that significant other?

Infatuation

• Sees the other person as perfect
• Wants to get own needs met; selfish
• Spends all time with the other person
• Quickly "falls" for the other person
• Other relationships and friendships deteriorate
• Dependence on the other person causes
• Jealousy frequently
• Lasts for a short period of time
• Distance strains and often puts an end to the relationship
• Quarrels are serious and common
• Quarrels can seriously damage the relationship

Love

• Sees the other person's flaws and still loves them
• Wants to serve the other person; selfless
• Still spends time with others
• Takes time to build the relationship
• Other relationships and friendships grow stronger
• Trust and understanding results in less severe and less frequent jealousy
• Encompasses a long-term commitment
• Survives and sometimes is strengthened because of distance
• Quarrels are less serious and less often
• Quarrels can strengthen the relationship

Infatuation can be so tempting. But the question is, do I want a lasting, satisfying relationship? If so, infatuation isn't the answer. Look at your relationships through the grid above. Infatuation isn't a bad thing, as long as we don't base a relationship on it.

Perhaps finding real love begins with God, the one who created relationships.

True love

It’s said that two persons truly in love aren’t looking at each other but in the one direction. And this is rather reasonable because they don’t say nothing “this is yours and this is mine” and share everything: friends, enemies, interests, problems and etc. One has his/her own identity but sees him/herself only as a part of the other. Still real love is not a relationship of property. If you really love someone you may say “I belong you” but always be ready to let go if it makes the person you love happy.

Jealousy stands out of the true love. How can one be jealous if there’s so much love and faithfulness? Real love doesn’t long for power, it doesn’t want to hurt, doesn’t want to punish for mistakes, it’s self-sacrificing and ready to forgive other and other again. But it’s wrong to think that true love is always a suffering, it only means that you take a person as he or she is and don’t expect the one you love to be perfect.

True love isn’t supposed to blow your mind, yet it doesn’t tend to get and to possess – it’s a and very special state of a soul.
But the question that true love is still has no definite answer. Do we truly love only once in our life? At what age are we supposed to meet our love? Does it last for a lifetime or just for a while? Probably everyone has his own answers to this questions. The truth is that no one should spend life chasing ideals or building relationships by some model of a true love. One will probably fail and miss the real thing beyond all this.


We should remember that very many things we need to supply our healthy and comfortable living but only the true feeling of love makes life really longer and happier. And this is scientifically proved.